“Sexual fantasy obeys its own rules that have nothing to do with common sense.” The only thing better than one nubile, personality-free woman is two of them. This is like someone named Steve entering a lottery called “Mega Millions for Anybody But Steve.” It’s not going to happen, Steve! I pointed out to Ogas that this is a rather irrational desire: Lesbians are the only group of women who will categorically never be interested in a straight man.
“It’s amusing that you offer up the fact that lesbians will never be interested in men as a possible reason why men should not be aroused by them,” he said. “Sexual fantasy obeys its own set of rules that have nothing to do with propriety, common sense, or even the physical laws of the universe. (I maintain that Oscar Isaac is going to come around any day now.) Women, for instance, are often aroused by billionaires and celebrities who are extremely unlikely to reciprocate the sentiment.” Ogas said that when it comes to fantasy, it gets even weirder than being into people who aren’t into you. “Many people nurse erotic fantasies of shrinking to the size of a mouse or being transformed into a furry bunny,” he said. Interestingly, the reverse-loving gay male porn-is not quite true for women. Unlike most men, Ogas said, most gay and straight women have an emotional, narrative component to their erotic fantasies. Straight women may have enjoyed Brokeback Mountain, but it was probably for the story. Michael Bailey, a psychology professor at Northwestern University who has studied arousal, says when they’re asked by researchers, women say they don’t get turned on by sex scenes featuring two men. However, when researchers measure their levels of genital arousal, women seem to equally enjoy erotica featuring two women, two men, or a heterosexual couple. “Their genitals get aroused, but that’s not necessarily what they feel in their heads,” Bailey explains. Meanwhile, most straight men don’t get aroused-genitally or intellectually-by anything other than women.